Why it is important to please people? Why we do that? Answer, Sometimes to be in there or our loved ones good books. Here again a question comes, why can’t we say a simple “NO”. Why pleasing people is so important to us. Saying “NO” may sound harsh or rude but it’s a powerful word and should be used smartly. Here’s why it is important. Most of us find difficult to turn down our friends and family when it comes to invite or any other requests. Almost always we put them first over ourselves. However, saying “NO” at times is beneficial for your well-being. It’s a powerful word using it smartly helps. Most often you say “yes” to everything your friends plan or family does. It is just because you do not want to hurt their feelings. But, this can eventually result in you feeling frustrated, resentful, tired and even negative about yourself. If left unchecked, it can further turn in negative talks and result into depression. Saying “NO” helps you save from all this. Setting goals is not only about identifying and doing things you want to do but also about identifying the things which you do not want to do. Saying “NO” helps in this greatly. It makes way for new opportunities, like making time for activities, things that you value and want to do in life. Creates stronger bonds – saying “NO” for that party or family outing may not seem so harsh when you put yourself first. If you always give in to any plans or arrangements, your friends and family would not respect your time and needs. Turning them down occasionally will help you set boundaries and make them realize & respect your needs and you more. This results in forging stronger bonds.
Helps to set priorities
A habit of saying “NO” actually helps to prioritize your tasks. Jot down what you need to do on priority, whether it’s your official work, taking your parents for a check-up, or anything else. This will give you clarity about your needs and make time to accomplish them. Remember, you cannot please everyone always, so do say “NO”. Being a “YES” person is not always a good idea. Even though you may feel guilty at first about turning down someone. Saying “NO” helps creates healthy boundaries. Any habit takes times to cultivate and saying “NO” is also the same. It is an exercise in mind, which makes you more aware of the power of the word itself.
